Let the emotionally unstable child be the master
Edit: My son is in third grade, and he is about to take the middle school entrance examination, but his mood swings can be described as “going to heaven”.
In the past two or three years, I found that he had done well or who praised him, and he felt that he could do everything. Once the results fell or he suffered setbacks, he began to arrogantly, saying that he could do nothing.
Don’t all the surprised mothers say “Jun’s Day Doll’s Face”?
It is never more appropriate to use this sentence to describe the emotional changes of adolescent children.
Let us look at a set of data. In our survey, more than a third of adolescent children have emotional problems, and 2% of them have reached a level of emotional disorder.
However, according to the situation you describe, your son’s emotional instability, like most children, is caused by the physical and psychological characteristics unique to adolescence.
Let’s look at the changes in physiology first. Adolescence is a period of “hurt surge” in life. No matter the size, organs, or sexual development and maturity, children’s accumulated energy is easily overexcited.
At this time, their nervous system was not fully developed and their regulating ability was relatively poor. They could not cope with various changes and external stimuli.
Looking at the psychological characteristics, adolescence is a period of transition from childhood to adulthood. Children have a strong desire to “de-childhood”, but due to various internal reasons such as inexperience, lack of ability, and external factors such as parents and societyTreating them as children, these two inconsistencies are intertwined, so that the children have not yet formed a stable self-evaluation.
It’s like the two sides of a silver coin, which face up is almost the person who is scheduled to throw.
That is to say, at this time, children’s evaluation of themselves is mostly to expand external views and cognition of them.
Of course it will happen. When others say that I’m good, I feel that I can do it; when others say that I’m bad, I really think that I can’t. The mood changes.
For such children, it is necessary to let them know their true selves. Therefore, it is recommended that parents do not hinder the empowerment of children, let them decide for themselves and decide what to do.
Afterwards, the mother and father evaluate the child’s decision again. In some cases, parents must divide the opinions into two places, pointing out what is right and what is wrong.
Let the child understand that he has both good and deficient areas. In this way, the child can understand himself more correctly after two months of training, and his emotions will stabilize.